Hospice - Bereavement Services
As grief is an expected response to death, University Hospice offers the following services:
- Informational mailing about grief and coping
- Short-term Counseling
- Lending library for adults and children
- Grief Support Groups
- Grief classes held twice yearly (pre-registration)
- Annual "Tree of Remembrance" (in December)
- Bereavement articles: Common Reactions
Bereavement Support Groups
Pre-registration required, phone (718) 226-6451
Adults: Every 2nd & 4th Monday, 1pm & 7pm
Children's Group for ages 6-14 meets at the 7pm session only.
Building a New Life
The opportunity that accompanies loss is as real as the pain, but often is overlooked. Times of crisis, such as following a death, uncover people's abilities, as well as their vulnerabilities. It is possible to use this information to resolve old conflicts and to build a new life.
Restructuring one's life after a loss is enhanced by doing it deliberately. It requires thought, patience, a willingness to be honest with one self, and the courage to change. One way to begin is to study one's talents, resources, and options, as well as blocks to self-fulfillment. Support groups and counseling can contribute to self-discovery and needed connection with others.
A next step would be to set some attainable goals and develop a plan to accomplish them. This provides direction and feelings of security, self-esteem, and hope, which tend to be lacking during bereavement.
The actual shifting of energy from the past to the future is a gradual process that is aided by achieving one's goals and by letting go of unattainable wants. Hope comes from choosing what is possible.
In attempting to build a life without someone who died, the following thoughts may be helpful:
- Even though you may feel that part of you is missing, you are a whole person; there may be undeveloped parts of you that can grow now.
- Intensity of grief is related to how much of ourselves is invested in the lost object (person).
- A relationship with a person does not end with death, it merely changes.
- Being a friend to others who are sorrowing can enable you to share what you have learned, and to turn grief into creative energy.
- Confronting a death can lead to a reevaluation and deepening of faith and spiritual life.
- The best memorial to a loved one is a full and growing life.
For info about University Hospice Bereavement Program, call (718) 226-6450